What does a healthy relationship actually look like?
If two people are in a long-distance relationship where they can only talk on the phone — is it normal to fight every day?
Is it normal for arguments to get worse and worse, to the point where you hurt each other with words daily?
I really want to understand what’s considered healthy and what’s not.
Last updated on:2025-12-09T22:07:36+05:30
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i’m curious, were you two fighting about the same things over and over? or did it feel like every new day brought a new reason to blow up?
same things over and over
i was in a long distance thing where we only had calls too. and when the calls became the only contact, every tiny misunderstanding blew up. we started fighting over tone, over timing, over nothing. it got to the point where every day felt like a battlefield. reading your words kinda brought me back to that version of me who thought that was “normal.” it wasn’t. it was just two people drowning and grabbing each other too hard.
A healthy relationship from what I have seen from my friend is when you feel calm with them. Same concept as when we are with our bestfriend. It's not a nervous, heart beating fast thingy nahhhh. It's when you feels relaxed, you don’t feels like you need to chase or seek for their attention. You can be yourself.
And my friend also said "In a stable and healthy relationship, we are not worried that our partner will cheat but we are worried of our partner passing away (left us from this world)". And that’s hit me sooo badly 💀.
Because at that time, I’m with my ex and I will always do everything to seek his attention. "what if he found another woman?" "i need to be prettier so he won't run away from him". At the end of the day, I got a tremendous amount of emotional exhaustion. That's when I know this relationship isn't healthy but I keep on going (because im sooo blind back then) up till he tossed me away from his life like a trash 🗿.
If it's lead to too much emotional exhaustion and you don't feels calmness or comfy feelings when around them or like you can't be who you are then, in my opinion, that's not a healthy relationship. But this is just my opinion, others might disagree
I dont think its healthy to fight every day even if youre in long distance relationship.
i dont wanna compare but I was in one
we kept fighting every day
some days were not pretty bad but
even when he came to visit me and i visited him when I looked at his eyes I knew i love him
but I didnt wanna get treated like that
the words that hurted me never left
the feeling of him disrespecting me never left
so I choose to leave.