I messaged my ex good luck tomorrow in his exams. He replied after 10 mins. We were on day 12 of no contact. I was struggling yesterday but today I feel okay. was i wrong to message him, probably. I want him so badly but I also don't. I think its very weird that him and my friend are constantly online on Instagram at the same time nearly everyday. Her and her boyfriend broke up too. I haven't opened his message yet I just half swiped he said thank you
Last updated on:2025-12-09T05:46:48+05:30
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do you feel like messaging him came from wanting connection, or just needing the anxiety to quiet down for a second?
Honestly I just wanted to be nice and wish him well but then I realised afterwards maybe that wasn't a good idea. like me and my ex will always see each other we live 15 mins from each other and have the same friend group
i’d just leave his “thank you” on delivered. you already said what you wanted. you don’t owe him more energy today. focus on the part where today feels okay, that’s the win.
i broke my own no contact just to be “nice” and then immediately felt that weird cocktail of relief and regret. you’re not wrong. you’re just human and missing someone who mattered. and that thing you said about him and your friend being online at the same time… yeah that would’ve messed with my head too. i’m sorry you’re seeing that.
I actually realised they don't follow each other so it put me at ease a bit i must say. I felt afterwards maybe I shouldn't have done that but him and I will always see each other we've the same friends so its that bit more difficult so In that moment in time I just wanted to reach out and be nice
u just need time i think. if ur friend nd him are texting eff them both. but do trust ur friend if she/he are good to u probably nothing is going on. in anyways choose ur self nd ur happiness.
They actually don't follow each other which is surprising and a relief. They do have each other on Snapchat though and her and her boyfriend split up too recently. but I dont think there is anything happening as we are all in the same friend group and it would be weird dating your friends ex i would find anyways