My ex and I were on and off for three years. We never saw other people during our breakups he was my first and I was his. The last time we broke up was about seven months ago and since then he’s found a new girlfriend. The painful part is that she’s a friend of mine someone I was always cautious about during our relationship because of the “friendly banter they shared. I don’t believe he cheated on me with her. I ended things because of personal issues and because I wasn’t treating him right I thought I was getting revenge for how toxic he had been throughout our time together.
About two weeks after we broke up she came to me directly asking for permission to date him. She wanted me to be the first to know and said she wouldn’t pursue anything if I felt uncomfortable. I told her I didn’t care though deep down I really did.
What hurts now is seeing how much better he treats her than he ever treated me. Everything I taught him everything I helped him grow into he’s now giving to her. It feels unfair I endured all the suffering stood by him through his worst phases and now someone else gets the best version of him. To make it worse she’s more attractive than me and we’re in the same friend group. I can’t share how I truly feel because I know people would just label me as the “salty ex. Watching him happy with her is painful because she’s everything he once wanted me to be.
I try to stay civil around her but jealousy eats at me and I catch myself criticizing every little thing she does. I want to text him and tell him how I feel but that would be the first time we’ve spoken since the breakup. I can’t stop thinking about him and I can’t stop loving him even though I know I should.
Last updated on:2025-12-10T02:48:03+05:30
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Hi! I don’t think that keeping this in your heart is the best solution. You are hurt, your are suffering, and you stay silent for them to be happy? You’re really a kind soul, but maybe you should tell her. Or, just take your distance with the group and her, especially when you affirm that your group could see you as the salty ex, you’re just hurting… Oh and, he isn’t treating her better. This is just the beginning, A healthy relationship can’t be built on another woman’s tears. Take your distances, take time for yourself, be honest with yourself and with people around you. You have to put YOU above everyone, you don’t care if that annoys them, just tell them that this is hurting you. That doesn’t force them to break up, but that gives you an excuse to take your distances and heal on your side. ❤️
You know if mine now x we're to have come up to me and ask me if it was okay if they dated one of my friends, or even if my friend came up to me and asked if it was cool if he dated my ex I would have been okay with both of those....
that is really unfortunate that you are forced to see them constantly and that definitely does not help. there isn't a definitive way to make things better but i would start by giving yourself some distance from them and trying to accept that maybe he didn't treat you the way you wanted to be treated because you weren't the girl he wanted. hope you feel better, stranger.