My boyfriend of 3.5 years broke up with me 5 weeks ago (06.11.2025) at first he originally wanted a break. I said no because what was the point in doing a break as he may have decided to break up with me anyways so I wasnt putting myself through that. When we started the break originally we said we'd meet on December 18th after his exams and talk things through but the break never happened in the end. His exams finish next week should I ask him to meet me to clear the air before Christmas incase our friends decide to have a night out (we share the same friend group) or should I leave it? I have a few things still belonging to him (a toy belonging to his dog and a hoodie) I also had tickets to a football game in February for us its a big thing to us but there is no us anymore and I don't want to sell them. I could go with someone else but I cant push myself to do that I want it to be him. over the past 5 weeks I've seen him a few times (we live 10 mins from each other) 1. 3 days after the breakup the day i gave him his belongings we hugged and kissed. 2. weekend later he was out for drinks with his friends he hugged me on the street.
3. I dropped him home from town at 4.30am in the morning he was a bit colder towards me, asking how was my night and that he didn't see me out and when I dropped him home he patted my knee saying thank you and after he got out of my car he looked at me and said see you around and waved me goodbye. and my last time having any communication with him was 4th December I was being nice and wished him good luck in his exams he said thank you and I left him on open. Where do I go from here? I want people's opinions on what should I do
Last updated on:2025-12-12T03:48:27+05:30
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when you think about meeting him… do you want clarity or do you want him back? like what’s the actual thing you’re hoping comes out of that conversation?
Clarity mainly and so the friend group can become some bit normal again. I still have feelings for him obviously it's only been 5 weeks but I know I cant continue dating him when hes this immature. His immature levels are bad to be fair for someone who is 23
i’d wait. i know it sucks but reaching out now might just reopen everything for you. giving it space usually makes the next move clearer. your heart’s too raw for another maybe.
i went through the same “break or breakup or what are we even doing” mess earlier this year and the mixed signals ruined my head. the hugs, the little moments, the coldness… it kept me stuck. i get why you’re confused, because it feels like he’s half in and half out. that limbo HURTS.
it sounds like he's happy to hug you when there's a crowd of you, but when it's one on one he's distant BC he doesn't want to go back there and lead you on in any way. so I would say he's done with you, so the question is are you done with him?