i’m losing myself

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I’m only 21, and I feel like I’m losing my sense of purpose in life. I finally broke up with him, and it hurts every day and I miss him so much but I had to choose myself. I was becoming obsessed with his other girlfriend, and then he told me he wanted me to be his second girlfriend. I had to say no I’m still young, and I couldn’t accept that.
Whenever I go out with friends, he gets angry, and he expected me to cook, clean, and wash for him just like his other girlfriend does. I don’t know if I’m being dramatic, but I really couldn’t keep living like that. am I dramatic?

Last updated on:2025-12-12T00:21:52+05:30

Comments (9)

DriftLow
DriftLow 3 mths ago

when you think about missing him, is it him you miss or the version of love you hoped it would become?

TwinkUp168
TwinkUp168 3 mths ago

I honestly miss the version of love i hoped it would become, I really believed in a happy ending

Eillmo
Eillmo 3 mths ago

you’re not dramatic at all. when someone makes you shrink or compete or beg for the bare minimum, it’s already too much. what helps me is writing out what actually happened, so my brain stops romanticizing the mess.

poetrygirl
poetrygirl 3 mths ago

i dated a guy at 20 who also wanted me to “adjust” while he gave me crumbs. he didn’t ask for a second girlfriend but the control… the double standards… same vibe. choosing yourself hurts at first but it’s the kind of hurt that saves you later

TwinkUp168
TwinkUp168 3 mths ago

I pray I heal sooner hey because I can’t take it anymore 😔

HexiFly769
HexiFly769 3 mths ago

God that's an awful and most disrespecting thing to ask like to be his Other GIRLFRIEND!! I'm glad you're out, don't turn back.

TwinkUp168
TwinkUp168 3 mths ago

Thank you, I won’t go back

GoodVibe855
GoodVibe855 3 mths ago

you are not dramatic you made the right choice breaking up.

TwinkUp168
TwinkUp168 3 mths ago

Thank you