it's over 100 days since we last spoke and over 150 days since we broke up. I've been doing so good lately! I actually started speaking to another guy, but now that it's starting to move out of the talking stage i don't feel ready at all. it's no annoying that's he's holding me back from potentially getting a new bf. I'm so scared of losing myself again. I lost myself completely with him, not even my parents could recognize me. I don't want him back but I miss our closeness and intimacy lately. not just the feeling of closeness with another human being but our bond. and I hate myself for it... he moved on almost immediately and I am here 5 months later still struggling. I do not want him back the slightest, I just really miss our relationship when it was good. I'm not ready for that with someone else right now.
Last updated on:2025-12-13T00:43:50+05:30
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do you feel like you’re scared of this new guy or scared of losing yourself again the way you did with your ex?
the latter
if it feels too fast, you don’t owe this new guy anything. slow down. every time i rushed it, i ended up panicking. taking space actually helped me figure out what was real and what was just old grief acting up.
trying to talk to someone new after my breakup and the second it got real i freaked out. i also missed the closeness from my ex even though i didn’t want HIM. it’s wild how the body hangs on to the bond long after the person is gone. you’re not weird for feeling this, it’s just the part of you that remembers what it felt like to be loved before everything went sideways.
Its been 92 days from my breakup and I meet a guy too I like it so much but I dont wanna have anything serious or like relationship rn Im just trying to meet him and we will see Im letting it flow. and. him. Did I forget No actually he was my first and I was 💍and sometimes he crossed my mind. but thats it somedays I cry like once a two week but Im so much better now
Take it slow , remember not to rush into new relationships if you aren’t ready . don’t get angry at yourself ,just take time to let yourself heal . as well as that you don’t want to get with this new guy and deep down feel confused about your situation wirh your ex . he should respect your still figuring things out , and if he wants a relationship he will wait💕
thank you. I talked to him today about the whole thing and he's very respectful and understanding. he said just because he a guy told me that he likes me, doesn't mean I owe him anything and I shouldn't pressure myself. He seems like a really good guy!