So it’s been 1 week since my break up w my narcissist ex (3 years relationship) and still love him and he told me he still loved me like 4 days ago, but then never answered me again. And today I saw him, like he was walking and I was waiting for my bus and we literally had an eye contact. I was SHAKING but that hurts a lot bc he didn’t even like idk, stopped or anything, like he walked as if I don’t even exist. Which hurts me bc I couldn’t even take my eyes off him. Anyways, 2 mins later a friend of mine showed me a screenshot of the private story of my exe’s bsf, and it was a conversation between his bsf and him and he was saying really bad things…Like basically saying he was looking for girls to have s*x with.
And this hurt me so I broke no contact (again) but he never answered and probably won’t.
But I’m confused, bc that boy I loved so muchhhh, my sweet boy that I met is none of that disgusting thing…He literally told me a week ago he was not this kind of boy, and I believed him (even though he cheated 3 times in the relationship so he IS like that) but idk. I feel really confused rn, he acts like I don’t even exist anymore. Its like we never existed. But I thought there was actual love in that relationship, those moments we had, the love I gave him, the one he gave me (when he was not being rude) I just feel so sad.
What is happening in his head guys? Why is he being like that? I still love him and he said that I was the woman of his life and he want to end with me and then he literally ignores my texts, me in real life and wanting to be a lustful boy…Even though he KNOWS I live him and I’m trying to heal for us and I want to get back w him again in the future. But why is he being like that?
Like where is my sweet baby?
What is happening ? Is he realizing what he is doing? This is crazy…I’m so confused about him.
Last updated on:2025-12-16T01:52:32+05:30
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when you saw him in person, did you notice any part of him that seemed like the “sweet boy” you knew, or was it completely cold? just curious how real that moment felt to you.
Like a stranger that I know too well. But he was not even close to the boy I fell in love with. He just keeps that angelic face
honestly, the confusion and hope are normal, but the truth is his actions show who he really is. it’s painful, but the healthiest thing i found was trying to fully step back and stop chasing him—even if it’s so hard
it’s wild how someone you loved so deeply can suddenly act like you don’t exist. i kept hoping he’d show the “sweet” side i fell for, but it never came. it HURT.
He cheated on you 3 times?! Have you ever heard the saying, "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."? You should have never given him a third chance. Know your worth. You need to block him and move on.
i have that kind of guy in my latest relationship, i thought he was great, loyalty and never flirt with any other girls, but after we broke up, he was exactly like ur man, and i was hurt and he explained that to me that it’s his rebounds, and he hurts so it’s a way to cope with pain, like a distraction from break up which i think is not healthy
There is no kind way to say this. There might have been love at some point in the relationship, but betrayal is betrayal. He's a serial cheater. He'll find reasons to do it again or he'll live in shame and it'll eat him alive if you both get back together. And you'll be constantly looking over your shoulder wondering if he's faithful.
I'm sorry you're going through this. it must be gut wrenching.