okay so 4 weeks ago he texted me. Just saying a simple hi. But today I finally feel ready to talk to him. BUT it's for a good reason. I want to try and stay friends with him. before we dated we were very good friends. so I want that back. if he pushes me away and doesn't want it to, Ill be okay with that. I still hold the grudge against him for choosing someone else over me, that will never change. but I miss him. a lot. not as a lover, but as a friend. Am I doing it wrong? should I just let this friendship die along with the relationship?
He responded and respected the boundaries I set. I missed talking to him and sharing things with him. I'm not *wrong* for still being mad at him for choosing someone else instead of me. I'm happy for him. I hope I find someone too.
Last updated on:2025-12-15T23:41:30+05:30
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when you think about being friends, do you feel like it’s mostly about missing the connection, or are you hoping it might heal some of the old pain too?
connection. definitely. We were very close friends before we were lovers. When I needed my time to heal, it was weird not talking to him. We are back to talking, and I honestly just missed my friend.
sounds like you’re handling this really well. respecting boundaries while still being honest about your feelings is key. just take it slow and don’t rush the friendship back, let it grow naturally.
It's definitely gonna be a different friendship then before. But he's willing to try this out. And I honestly just missed my friend
i went back to talking to my ex as friends too, even while still holding onto my anger. it’s weird, but it’s normal to miss the person separate from the hurt
My ex and I were friends for 8 years before we dated. I have no desire to stay friends. F*ck him. He is dead to me.
Thats fair. Everyone is different. I mainly want to be friends because he knows me better than anyone else. And I also missed talking to him about everything in my life. It was weird when I needed space.