we have been on dates and casual the last few months. we aren’t exclusive. he is going away soon and plans on having sex with people from that country. he said we will see what happens between us after he gets back but he won’t commit until after his trip. I don’t know what to do. he used to be so sweet but recently he is being emotionally disconnected for his trip and it hurts. he knows how I feel about him. part of me wants to wait but the other part of me doesn’t want him to be with anyone else. I feel like I’m not enough. I’ve pulled back as well while he is being distant with me.
Last updated on:2025-12-15T16:42:03+05:30
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do you feel like you’re waiting because you truly want to, or because you’re scared of losing the version of him he used to be with you?
when someone starts pre-detaching and keeping options open, it usually hurts more to wait than to protect yourself. pulling back saved me a little bit of dignity, even though it sucked at first. you’re not wrong for wanting more.
i was in almost the exact spot. casual, not exclusive, but my heart absolutely was. he also said “let’s see after i’m back” while emotionally checking out before leaving. that feeling of not being enough messed with my head BAD