My girlfriend (now ex) and I dated from late July until early December. In the beginning everything was amazing we spent so much time together did countless things and showed each other love in every way. I’ll admit I didn’t have a job for the first three months so she covered a lot of expenses. I still managed to pay for some things or pay her back when I could. By the fourth month I got a job and told her she wouldn’t have to pay for much anymore. From then on I took care of most things flowers stuffed animals clothes food even a Switch 2. I constantly showed her love and support told her how proud I was of her and wrote her love letters. I wanted to be better than her past boyfriends and she told me I was that I had the perfect personality.
Then out of nowhere she started acting distant. She barely hugged or kissed me and when we lay down together she wouldn’t cuddle or hold me. Eventually she admitted she was losing feelings because of my teeth my body and the fact that I didn’t have a car. She knew about my teeth from the start and I told her I’d fix them now that I had a good-paying job. But it didn’t matter she said she couldn’t be with someone she couldn’t kiss talk to or be intimate with because of my bad breath.
What hurt the most was the morning we broke up. She came by to pick up the gifts I’d bought her expensive clothes from Skims and while we talked she noticed I was freezing and told me to go inside. Before leaving we shared a long hug and she even said she missed my hugs. Later that day she posted a picture of the gifts on Snapchat with the caption “best boyfriend ever ❤️. That same night she told me she missed me and not even thirty minutes later she broke up with me.
I don’t understand what I did wrong. I gave her everything made her feel loved appreciated and supported. Now I just want her back. I can’t enjoy the things I love because she’s always on my mind. It’s hard I’m hurting and I feel like giving up.
Last updated on:2025-12-17T05:46:02+05:30
Comments (3)
when she started pulling away and pointing at your looks, did you feel like you were suddenly trying to earn her love instead of just being loved?
when someone’s affection turns conditional, it slowly breaks you even if you’re doing EVERYTHING right. what helped me was realizing love isn’t supposed to make you feel ashamed of your body or grateful for basic kindness. you didn’t fail here.
i’ve been the one who tried to love harder thinking it would fix everything. the whiplash of “i miss you” to breakup messed with my head too. being criticized about your body like that sticks deep. i’m really sorry