So me and my ex dated for like a month and for the past couple months have been basically together but without the label. Couple weeks ago he said he felt mixed feelings abt me but he’s still been planning on giving me an answer in December on whether will get back together or not. But while he’s feeling mixed we agreed not to kiss or do anything physical. We hanged out 2 days ago at the shops and it was fun and platonic. Then we went to my house for like 40 min while we waited for his mum to pick him up and then he ended up initiating to have sex by saying like “but don’t u ever miss it” and then I gave a mini speech about how I want to but not when he’s mixed emotions. And I asked him if he still feeling mixed and he was like “wanna find out” and we ended up doing it. Then yesterday I said to him like since we agreed not to do anything while things were mixed but still ended up doing it, did it mean anything to him or was it more just physical. he said “Itwas more physical ngl”. Does that mean he’s using me or does it just genuinely happen in the moment? Also what should I do because I really want to get back together in December but
Last updated on:2025-12-23T20:06:02+05:30
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be honest with yourself for a sec. after he said it was “more physical,” did you feel closer to him or did you feel smaller and more anxious about December?
the “no label but basically together” zone messed me up too. i had someone say she was confused, still sleep with me, then later say it was just physical. that whiplash HURT it made me feel wanted and disposable at the same time.
he is a douche and i know you dont wanna hear this but you deserve way better then him. as much as you might want to have him still and be loved by him, this isn't even love, just lust. and you WILL find someone who loves every part of you, not just your body or your willingness. just think about that.