Does anyone whos been in a relationship for years and went through breakup, no contact and healed have any advice for someone who is going through the starting process of that ?
it's been months but it's been hitting me deeply for the past 3 weeks amd especially when I found out he has a new girl. I tell myself the way he chooses to heal has nothing to do with me and my worth but it still hurts so much. I broke no contact just to find out that he was physically with her and he told me to leave him alone. so I do know that it's over but my hope keeps pulling me into maybe one day he'll come back or reach out on my birthday. but even if he
did I'd never be able to trust him and see him the same.
I don't know how to accept or even start to let go of us and the hope.
Last updated on:2025-12-17T23:36:05+05:30
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Listen, I know this is hard. I’m trying to heal from a 3 years long relationship, he cheated on me multiple times, mine was a narcissist. He got with another girl two days after he told me he loved me. So here are my advices: first of all you have to ask yourself, do you really have anything to regret? You did everything for him, and he disrespected you, treated you bad, he is the one with regrets not you. And when you realize you don’t have regrets, you’ll see that it will be a little bit easier. Secondly, you need to stop stalking them. This is really easy to say Ik, but I was always stalking mine and breaking no contact, and this would not heal me it would actually destroy me bc he kept ignoring me and being active on social media. When I saw a story w his new girl, I immediately felt disgusted. I stopped stalking him, and even though it’s only been 2 days since I last checked his social media, TRUST ME I feel wayyyyyy much better than when I was checking his acc. You don’t want to love someone who doesn’t choose you, you loved the idea of them in your head. I know this is hard, but you have to cut everything off. Block them, don’t give them any chances of reaching out bc anyways if they wanted to they would. Nothing is impossible, so just block them, if they want to contact you they will find a way. Finally, I know you want them to come back, i’m not gonna lie I wish too. But think about it: Do you want to keep that ache in your stomach? Don’t you want peace? And know that if you were perfect in the relationship and they were the shitty one, they usually come back. Not to change or love you, just to see if you would still want them. But they come back when you are healed, just focus on yourself. Take your time, process the pain, and then you will see everything will be better. ❤️
girl he has a Whole New gf. told you to leave him alone and u are giving yourself hope to reach you... Noo please no don't do that to yourself to your heart make it easier for you to heal move on time will heal .do a glow up. hangout with friends family , make jokes laugh but cry let your emotions out. TIME WILL HEAL.
but i know but we just broke up. and he was still texting me like he wanted to see me and etc. and I asked him did he mean it when he said he didnt love me anymore he told me no but in the same sentence told me to leave him alone twice. I cry and I cry then feel numb and it hurts because the whole time I was crying and sent him paragraphs he was with her. he always use to tell me my love is rare etc just to replace me in 3 months