Today I talked with a very good friend of my Ex about the whole situation. It was a very good talk. We talked a lot about live, not just my Ex.
He said, that it isn't my fault, that it didn't worked out. He is the problem. He can't cope with himself for now and that will hold on because he also avoids dealing with it. But I can't fix that problem too.
We want to start playing together again in the new year. I want to know, what I feel, when I see him and if I could talk to him normally. And I also want to know what his reactions are.
It gives me peace to know, that I am not the problem.
Last updated on:2025-12-20T21:24:38+05:30
Comments (7)
Don’t keep surrounding yourself with people associated with him because trust me it won’t give you a sense of moving on . you will get to expecting X,Y,and Z and when you do see him it won’t be anything what you thought .
please try to create a life outside of him so that you can be able to move on completely from him and once you feel neutral about the situation and you feel like you are not in pain anymore or like the pain is very very less then try to get back to his life or make him go back to your life by playing with each other but before that please protect yourself and search for other people outside of the relationship not just like his friends or your mutual friends like other people that don't know him that could be your safety so that you don't feel like you're clinging on into this life
I made a lot new friends after the break up. I have a new live in another town where I study and my friends there don't know him (just by talking abaout him). They give me more safety than he ever could but I also miss talking to the others - our friends.
His friend also said, that the first evening will be at January or March so there is still time and if I think I can't handle that than I won't go.
@KokoFizz621 okaay thats good u r doing great then! good luck
don't beat yourself up. you can't say you were the problem or he was the problem. when relationships breakdown it's because it's no longer working. either one or both of you grew apart which happens so don't overthink the situation now. you may very well become friends further down the line but you won't know until you see him for the first time. good luck
yes, youre totally right. I did also some things that I am not proud of and hurt him too. But I mean by 'he is the problem', that he can't be in a relationship with me anymore. I could if he could but he can't so I can't, so we can't. He isn't strong enough to fix our differences for now.
@KokoFizz621 and you're admitting to your mistakes and wrong doing now which is apart of the healing process. healing slowly means you'll love right the next time round. be kind to yourself x