at sometimes I miss him and sometimes I remember the things I went through during the relationship, when I feel okay I feel like im avoiding the healing. I cry and then im numb then cry. what am I supposed to do to move on from someone who let me know they dont love or care about me anymore and told me theres no hope for us and he moved on to a new girl
how long did it take for the hope to fade? that maybe he'll come back.
Last updated on:2025-12-24T01:46:04+05:30
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when you miss him, are you missing him, or the version of him you hoped he’d become before he showed you he was done?
definitely the version I hoped him to become and before he started being mean to me.
it didn’t disappear because i forced it, it faded because i kept choosing reality over the fantasy. remembering how i was treated helped when my brain tried to romanticize him again.
missing him one minute, then remembering the emotional damage the next. crying, numb, crying again. i kept thinking if i felt okay i was “doing healing wrong.” turns out that back and forth IS the healing
there's no actual timeframe to the healing process but you will need to find a way that works for you. I honestly wouldn't recommend wasting time wishing him to come back if he's told you he's no longer in love with you and with someone else, all that is going to do is restrict you from giving your love to someone else and finding that perfect happiness that you deserve. try to find ways that will heal your heart and help you to feel less pain
Honestly it's just all apart of the healing process, somedays you're more angry ajd then other days where you swear up and down you'd do anything to go back, stop doing that it isn't worth the stress, I promise you.