I’m going through a really painful breakup right now. This was my first relationship and it lasted nearly four years.
We broke up about a month ago. I tried to reconcile because she meant so much to me and for a moment it seemed like things might work out. But then she blocked me again. When she eventually unblocked me it was only to send messages about a new guy she’s talking to. She described in detail how they met how much better he is than me and even sent me a photo of them together. She told me how much she likes him and how much he likes her.
She even called me while I was in complete distress crying but instead of easing the pain she kept going. It felt like living through a nightmare.
I don’t understand how someone could be so heartless. She was not only my girlfriend but also my best friend for so long why couldn’t she let me down gently?
The shock has hit me hard. I’ve been struggling to eat and sleep and now I’m blocked again.
I did so much for her and endured so much during my teenage years yet this past week has been one of the hardest of my life. I keep asking myself: what did I do to deserve this? How am I supposed to trust anyone again? And how do I stop thinking about her and this new guy?
Last updated on:2025-12-24T06:10:05+05:30
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when she was sending those messages and calling you while you were crying, did it feel like she wanted to punish you for still loving her? or like she needed reassurance from your pain?
i know it doesn’t feel like it, but the way she’s acting says way more about her than you. when someone needs to hurt you to move on, it’s usually because they can’t sit with their own guilt. what helped me was muting everything and protecting my peace, even when it felt impossible
blocked her please. so she'll have no way of hurting you all over again. that's torture 💔
my ex also rubbed the new person in my face and it BROKE something in me. that kind of cruelty sticks. it’s emotional abuse, plain and simple.
you don't deserve this and she wants to hurt you. She knows that it hurt you to show her new guy. Maybe you should block her too, that when she wants to talks to you about her new guy, she can't reach you. I know that it is very hard but to save yourseft from that hurt, you need space. separate you from her because now, she has the control over you.
I know that it seems hard to trust anyone ever again but when the right person come, it will be easy.
I would die inside again, when I would find out, that my ex found another girl and do the things we did with her... but I don't wanna think about that because that doesn't make it better.
Try to find something to do you love like sport and separate you from her