I texted her this:
"Hi (her name),
I'm not writing to make you regret anything or to try to win you back. I just hope that one day you can forgive me. I won't find anyone better than you, but I hope I'll find someone who suits me better, just as you were able to find someone who suits you.
You and I were once part of the same team, and in a way, I wish it could still be that way, even though our paths are now separating. I will always support you from afar, hoping that you find the happiness and love you truly deserve.
I have no regrets, no hard feelings, just gratitude for what we shared and hope for what life has in store for both of us. What we experienced was important, (her name): it shaped us, taught us things, and left us with pieces of each other that will always exist in quiet moments.
Wherever life takes you, I hope you will be surrounded by love that fulfills you. And if our paths cross again, I hope we can smile, knowing that we once meant a lot to each other. Maybe we can even finish that cold coffee and have a good conversation.
Merry Christmas, (her name). My love for you will remain infinite, and even though it's incredibly difficult for me to turn the page, I owe it to myself and to you to do so. It's the respect I owe to all the love I have for you. I'm sorry for how it all ended.
You don't need to write back to me. You don't need to do anything. But know that if you ever feel like getting back in touch, I'll always be here, no matter the reason. No matter how small. No matter how big. "
so I believe 95% of all of what I wrote her. the problem is that Im still not over her and I might never be. I love her to death. But I had to write to her and have no clue if she blocked me or read it and I suspect she won't ever reply. But It did helped me remove a weight off my chest. These holidays are especially hard. All I can think of is her with her new boyfriend and her meeting her new family in law and getting to know them and falling deeper in love with him and it's destroying every single fiber of my soul.
thank you for taking the time to read me.
Last updated on:2025-12-25T16:28:17+05:30
Comments (4)
I appreciate that. thank you.
My pleasure. You got this, don't betray yourself.
It's okay, don't worry. I'll be harsh, you need scolding.
Sometimes, we write down our emotions to let go of the weight we feel in our hearts. You did great in doing that, wrong in sending to her.
Did it help you at all? Did it make you feel better?
I guess not because you're thinking of her and her boyfriend.
You're telling yourself lies
> You will be over her.
That's a fact...
But it's not magic, friend. It's not like one day, you'll wake up and feeling great, you're over her. That's a fantasy, that's crap, that will never happen.
Reality is harsh, you will feel pain, sadness, that urge to rip off your heart but, eventually it fades away, you learn how to live with it.
YOU WILL NOT BE OVER HER if you:
• Still texting her and waiting a response
• Still thinking about her and her boyfriend, those dumb scenarios you don't even know and only hurt you.
(I'm assuming this, my apologies if it's incorrect)
• Don't work out
• Don't study or work
No one is going to save you, no one will do the work for you.
So sit down and feel everything and control yourself next time. If you feel the urge to talk to her again, write everything in a notebook, BUT DON'T TEXT HER.
You're a nice guy, please don't play with your emotions.
you are so right. thank you