So I've been for 7 months and 3 days with this girl from another country around 200km away and recently we've broken up, she's younger than me and I think in the end she's immature, today I told her I can't be friends with her because my feelings for her are still the same as the day she broke up with me, I've told her this various times but this time I've taken action for real but she didn't take it well, she started being mean, saying things like that if she isn't mean I don't understand that we weren't that serious and she told me to not message her again. I promise to myself I won't but I feel so weird about everything, she loved me so much and cared about me so much but all of the sudden I'm a manipulator and toxic because I told her things like that I didn't really like her hanging out with certain people not because of jealousy but because they weren't good influence and if she wore certain clothing I told her she looked so good and it's fine she wore it but I didn't like it either, I tried to express myself not limit her freedom and she says this has been both of our fault but as I said right now all she said is what I did wrong and when I told her she also did things wrong all she did is get defensive.
hope y'all understand me I can't write that well đź’”.
Last updated on:2025-12-26T20:28:17+05:30
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hey, just curious… when you expressed your concerns, did she ever listen calmly or was it always defensive? trying to understand the dynamic here.
Always defensive and sometimes she tried to understand me but always never
was with someone long distance too and no matter how careful i was, it always felt like i was “too controlling” even when i just cared. it’s brutal letting go.
I understand you well. It's a waste of time trying to talk to them about the things they did wrong.
She can't handle the guilt, do yourself a favor and stop talking to her. Don't waste any more energy. Keep it to yourself and heal.
yeah I did so, btw it was 2000 not 200 but yeah
@BraveDream162 Glad you did so. I hope you're doing well. We're in this together
@Minato99S thank you seriously, you can tell me about your struggles