it is the day after Christmas. I didn't text him (proud of myself ^^). and he also didn't text me.
I thought a lot about him yesterday. Today I woke up and realised, that we can't be togheter. I dreamd about him and his family. He smiled and we gave each other another chance. But his parents said I should leave and never come back. So I left. And watched my ex watching me. But he didn't stop me or anything else.
I think that sums up my thoughts somewhat. I love him and miss him. And maybe he still loves and miss me too. But he puts his family above me even when he loses me because of that. And I don't want that my further husband choose his mother over the mother of his kids.
To the Titel and my question: I still miss him and last year we were every day togheter till Silvester. Any tips to don't think too much about him when I go to my grandparents and the rest of the family without him?
Last updated on:2025-12-26T21:40:04+05:30
Comments (4)
when you’re with your grandparents, do you think keeping busy with fun activities or traditions could help you not dwell on him so much?
i know it’s tough, but try focusing on the moments with your family and yourself. distractions, journaling, or small routines helped me stop obsessing over him. little steps, not big leaps.
the thing is, my family is often very complicated and sometimes I 'used' him to get away from my family 😅
but I try my best focusing on myself and love myself the best way I can. I have so much love in my heart so why shouldn't I give it to myseft, when he doesn't want that love anymore ^^
i was with someone who always put family first too, and i kept hoping things would change. it HURT, but giving myself space helped me breathe again