We’ve been talking for a few months now. From the start he told me he wanted to get to know me first that he wasn’t interested in dating just for the sake of it but wanted to date with marriage in mind. In the beginning I was the one initiating most of our conversations. When things started to feel dry I stopped reaching out thinking If he doesn’t want me in his life he won’t reach out and I’ll take that as my sign to leave him alone. But the very next day he came back with compliments which made me believe he liked me too.
Lately I’ve been happier because he began initiating conversations himself flirting more and even checking my socials often which made me feel like he was developing feelings for me. I didn’t pressure him to take me out since he said he wanted to get to know me first and I tried to be patient while he found his rhythm.
But about a week ago I saw his socials and noticed he had posted pictures that looked like he was on a date. It broke me. I can’t believe he would do this after all the compliments flirting and emotional intimacy we shared. What happened to the whole getting to know someone part? Why did he go out with someone he barely knew while I wasn’t even worth trying for after months of caring for him?
The worst part is that he’s acting like nothing happened. I’m hurt confused and struggling to understand how to move forward. How do I overcome this? Does it ever get better?
Last updated on:2026-02-27T15:39:14+05:30
Comments (5)
what months he back ? never accept avoidant be friend them always wan flirty without label seem he do rebound never trust avoidant jump fast date fuck him block him all sns so he cant play with u let he know he lost u ubetter move on sis go therapy gym journal talk friend fam busy work school hobby glow up focus yourself u gonna be ok I'm also have ex avoidant
ask him what his intentions are with you, and why he has not asked you out on a date after getting to know you for months
focus not just on your happiness but what you know will help you in the long run and sometimes thays choosing to step away from what doesn't serve you, maybe he chases you maybe not but you have to live for yourself even if you have feelings for someone
Majority of Men don’t like nice girls. They like the females who r players. They like to chase. Pile up your roster so you always have options. Eventually you’ll marry one of them. Play him like he’s playing you
Hes dating. He goes out with different people to get to know them. Maybe one day he chooses to marry one, maybe not. Just enjoy the time you get together