I thought I was getting better. and now I sit in my room again and cry.
I want him back so bad but there is no chance that this works out for now.
we both hurt each other. He hurt me by not showing his love anymore and supporting his family instead of me.
And I hurted him by including his brother and his girlfriend to help me and not telling him the whole truth what I told them.
He is such a stubborn. His friends gave him all a piece of their mind what he did wrong (a lot). He is just 18 and not very ripe yet. I was his first love. He broke up with me after he found out I talked with his brother. And came back 2 days after it. Then he blocked me after I told him, that I was hurt and regretet pushing him away a week later. this was 2 moths ago. But I still love him so much and want to fix all this. I am scared that he moves on and really gets over me that quickly.
I had a talk with one friend of him. He said that Richard cant cope with himself now. he is drinking a lot. He said that the break up hurt him more than he admit. but he also things that there is no chance that we came back togheter... another friend said, that Richard always comes back. but this was also over a month ago...
please help and say what you think about all this
Last updated on:2025-12-27T14:48:53+05:30
Comments (4)
I’m going to be honest here because it’s something i recently realised…. if you keep thinking that it isn’t working “for now” you will always think that if you wait it will work out “in the future” and this hope will continue to eat at you everyday… it’s hard to get better when you continue to have this hope.
What you’re feeling is real and valid, but it’s important to be honest with yourself too. Healing isn’t linear
feeling worse again doesn’t mean you failed. You both hurt each other because neither of you had the emotional tools to handle the situation, and at 18 that lack of maturity is common. His drinking, blocking, and pulling away don’t mean he doesn’t care
they mean he can’t cope
but that also means he’s not capable of being a healthy partner right now. Love alone won’t fix this. Waiting for him to come back or fearing that he’ll move on will only keep you stuck and hurt longer. The healthiest thing you can do is step back completely and focus on stabilising yourself, not the relationship. If it’s meant to come back, it will only happen when both of you are calmer and more mature
and if it doesn’t, this relationship still taught you what you deserve
consistency, honesty, and emotional safety
you can't re write what happened
And if you ever feel like reading old msgs or think of moments, contact him, or anything like that
tell yourself, you will do this in 15-20 mins
and then distract yourself for good, like do sntg you like, like hobby, watch smtg or study, or anything which makes u better and happy
if u don't have anything then sleep
And if like me, you also create moments, convos in your mind
So use it, try to imagine and give yourself a closure
what is happening with u is limerence effect
Also, at the end, you will get the right person you deserve
So till then focus yourself
thanks for the beautiful words
I will give my best to fokus on my self
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