im dreaming of her everynight and it hurts like hell i cant believe its over
we went through so much together and we promissed eachother that we will always be there for another
we even promissed that even if one of us decided to break up we will stay friends
we used to be bullied at high school so it was like me and her against the world and i cant believe she dumped me after what we went through
she was a part of me
i was a part of her
what went wrong?
Last updated on:2025-12-29T20:30:05+05:30
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did she explain why she broke up? sometimes understanding even a little can help make sense of the pain, even if it doesn’t lessen it immediately.
i’ve been there, and it sucks so much. sometimes it’s not about what went wrong, it’s just that people grow apart. journaling your feelings helped me a lot.
my ex and i were inseparable too, felt like we were against the world together. losing that bond… it HURTS in ways you can’t explain.
And if you ever feel like reading old msgs or think of moments, contact him, or anything like that
tell yourself, you will do this in 15-20 mins
and then distract yourself for good, like do sntg you like, like hobby, watch smtg or study, or anything which makes u better and happy
if u don't have anything, then sleep.
Hey
see what you’re going through is real grief, not weakness. When you share trauma, and ‘us against the world’ experiences with someone, your brain bonds very deeply
so losing her feels like losing a part of yourself, which is why you dream about her and feel stuck.
I am going through the same btw, and nothing ‘went wrong’ overnight; sometimes people grow, heal, or change in different directions, and love alone isn’t always enough to keep two people aligned. Her saying she’s happier doesn’t erase what you meant to her
it just means her needs changed, not that your care was useless or replaceable. Right now, your pain is amplified because you’re holding onto promises made in a different version of both of you. The healthiest thing you can do is stop trying to understand why she left and
you can't re write what happened
And if like me, you also create moments, convos in your mind
So use it, try to imagine and give yourself a closure
what is happening with u is limerence effect
start focusing on rebuilding your identity outside the relationship
your routines, your confidence, your future. Healing doesn’t mean forgetting her, it means accepting that the chapter ended even if it mattered. If you let yourself feel the pain without chasing closure, clarity will come naturally. And yes, you will get what’s meant for you
BUT only when you stop clinging to what was and make space for what’s next
she told me she was more happy without me but how can she say that? i was the only one who cared about her tears when all the others did was to laugh at us