i had to basically end a month long situationship. it's only been 9 hours since the last time I sent him a message. he left it on delivered. I keep checking to see if he looked at it but I do have his messages restricted. it's really hard not to say anything else to him but I said what I needed to say and I want to leave it at that and not say anything else to him. I know a month doesn't sound like a long time, it might sound silly that I'm upset over only a month. but you see, I ended up in the situationship by accident. I just got out of a 2 year relationship that was absolute hell. I went through so much. I ended up making a Facebook dating profile and that's how I met my ex situationship. we started talking everyday and it led to us hanging out everyday to the point he was staying the night. it literally felt like we were going to be in a relationship. well, it ends up that's not what he wanted after all. and if you really step back and look at it, I was definitely led on. he even bought a gift for Christmas btw which doesn't seem like anything but it was to me. not to mention the gift was super thoughtful and meant so much to me. but 9 hours ago he decided to tell me that a relationship isn't what's best for him. so I didn't even care about a relationship until I met him and he decided to lead me on for a past month and then pull the rug from under me. it's okay, at least I didn't waste more than a month of my time and I can just take time to get over it and move on. 🤷🏻♀️ the biggest thing now is staying strong and not messaging him.
Last updated on:2025-12-27T23:33:27+05:30
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he'll comeback and regret it in about 2-3 days probably. Feels like a avoidance attachement style to me. He might have felt like a rebound, or he might have felt it was going to fast.
I'm talking as if it was me of course because I had a situationship occur after my breakup this summer and things definitely felt too quick. She and I were out of recent breakups and were recomforting each other and it felt great. but yeah.. it didnt work out.
he claims it's because of stress. I can be understanding of that. but he was the one who persued me, he was the one who said oh yeah it's my goal to be in a relationship with you lol. I'm under stress too man.. I have kids, I'm a single mom, my ex has pending domestic violence charges. it's okay that you don't want to be in a relationship but why did you have to waste my time? just wish he would've left me alone honestly.
@ZippySnap915 Yeah, that's just too bad then. If he could at least better communicate then you wouldn't have to guess the reason as to why he wants space or to end things other than just "stress". We all deal with stress.
@ZippyJet784 what's even crazier is I would've been fine with us just only ever being friends but he was literally the one who was saying his goal was to be in a relationship with me and everything. I just kind of caught feelings because he really was a nice guy and I've been alone for a while now. jokes on me I guess lol
you can do it. you can not message him. heal through ir pain. did he led you on or did you believe what you wanted to happen?
no he definitely led me on lol. he told me like maybe 2 weeks ago that his goal was to have a relationship with me 😂 he was sending mixed signals this whole time I just didn't want to see it because I liked him a lot also, I've been sad and lonely ever since my last relationship ended. I should've done better to protect my emotions but sometimes that's easier said than done.
@ZippySnap915 a man who dont know what he wants is a man not worth your time. honestly. just think of all the men who are sure about you and mature that come your way. go out have fun enjoy