I dated an avoidant

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The relationship was good, he was so loving... I did all I can to help him... Supported him, supported his dreams... Can't belive I missed all the red flags... He cheated and soon as I confronted him, he dumped me... What hurt most is the fact that he didn't even give me closure, he just ghosted me like we were not together for 3 years... Am an anxious attachment and it hurt

Last updated on:2025-12-31T06:10:55+05:30

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Sweetlady810
Sweetlady810 2 mths ago

I understand how you feel I was just ghosted by avoidant boyfriend it's heartbreaking. We barely messaged a few times but never had a conversation about anything wrong or break up. it's hard to do no contact with so many questions. I hope you know that you deserve so much more. Mature men can have a conversation and be hones.

leavehope
leavehope 2 mths ago

you feel like the hardest part right now is the cheating itself, or the way he disappeared and left you alone with all the questions in your head?

soulLeft
soulLeft 2 mths ago

the ghosting hurts more than the cheating. what helped me a bit was reminding myself that closure from someone who betrayed you is usually just more pain. distance was awful at first, but it slowly quieted the spiral.

sadFeeling
sadFeeling 2 mths ago

i supported him through EVERYTHING, dreams, breakdowns, excuses. then cheating, then ghosted. three years like it meant nothing. that no-closure part messed with my anxious attachment so bad

BrightJoy369
BrightJoy369 2 mths ago

I’m so sorry 🫂

Unhealed
Unhealed 2 mths ago

Wow! That's harsh. Now that you have seen his true colors, I hope that makes it easier for you to move on. Someone who truly loves you would never do that. You deserve better. He did you a favor by ghosting you.

MewBop235
MewBop235 2 mths ago

Now when you mention this... Am glad he chose the other woman... Il eventually heal and find strength

Unhealed
Unhealed 2 mths ago

@MewBop235 you got this! Onwards and upwards! I hope 2026 is better for you!