He ended things but immediately called me to say he wants me to stay in his life and text him things about my day to day if I wanted. Is that normal and healthy? Does anyone have experience in making that kind of situation work?
Last updated on:2025-12-29T15:03:03+05:30
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do you feel like texting him would actually comfort you, or would it keep you hoping for something he’s already decided not to give?
my ex ended it but still wanted the daily texts, the comfort, the emotional closeness. it messed with my head so bad because i was still in love and he got the benefits without the commitment. that limbo HURT
idk
My ex says we can stay friends, but he does not explicitly say he wants me to stay in his life. I think my ex is doing this because he hates that he hurt me. I think yours maybe doesn’t want a relationship with you but misses things about any relationship like the daily texts and maybe he’s lonely.
Either way…I have texted my ex many times over the last few weeks but am finally starting to see this is not a good way for me to move on. It instead keeps me hoping that he will be reminded of me and change his mind…and that is definitely NOT healthy. Only once you truly accept that the relationship is over will you be able to heal. I am saying this for myself too since I am in the same boat. I am hopeful that maybe eventually after time off and completely healing we can be friends…but that again is me holding on to the past. For now we should focus on no contact and healing ourselves.
staying friends with an ex definitely isn't going to work. I'm currently friends with my ex and all it's done is make my heart grow fonder of him. he has a gf which I've known about from the off but I'm here still fighting for a relationship that may never happen in my lifetime. so I suggest you cut all ties and learn to heal now as it's a long and slow process.
I've been trying to do such thing, because he wanted to stay friends. If you still love him - don't to that, because it will only hurt more.
In my situation it wasn't a friendship - it was a painful waiting of getting him back and he thought that I just was his friend. It depends of what you want to get from this
you need time love, to be by yourself x
It won't work... You need space and time