I drove past his house after resisting the urge for a couple weeks now. Been 3 since he discarded me. It's not failure.. I'm human. I didn't reach out. I won't reach out. 3 weeks since he walked away from me. Left me crying, bared my soul. And nothing. Silence is an answer. And I'm doing what needs to be done.. moving on.
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when you drove past, did it feel more like closure for you, or were you hoping for some kind of sign from him?
honestly, not reaching out is HUGE. sometimes just letting the silence speak is the hardest part of moving on. what helped me was reminding myself that restraint is still progress, even when it feels messy.
you're doing good, your doing your best, keep it up
I feel like it was my own fault. Months and months of dating. intimacy. being around my kids. never clarity. never "made it official"
when I asked all he said was he was happy where we were at and let's see how it goes. claims there was no one else yet I got a snapchat message from someone claiming he was talking to someone else. and someone posted him on Facebook "are we dating the same guy" still said there was no one else. I started questioning, spiraling. 10 months of dating. consistently talking. If he wasn't at my house, I was at his. and like the rug was pulled out underneath me, he came to my house and in less than 8 minutes he ended it. said we could "move on from this" and walked away. 3 days later he brought my packages and I admitted to him that I fell in love. there is more to it, but I feel like an idiot. silly me for thinking consistency meant we were building. he had all the perks of a relationship without the lable and emotional responsibility. if I was too much, he can go find less. that's why I won't reach out. I'm weak right now and angry. That I allowed myself to hope. he is a coward.
i did the drive-by too after my ex discarded me. sat there, heart pounding, but didn’t text. that silence after you bare your soul is brutal. it really messes with your sense of worth
It really does. I'm trying to move forward. I have good days, I have bad days. tonight is just a bad night.
Good luck. I agree, we are human. You got hurt and are grieving so there’s no right way to grieve. It is amazing you have not reached out. I very much am having trouble with that part. They say it’ll get better, so we just need to be patient. Work on yourself.
I was so close to it tonight. The grief is turning to anger and I almost tossed a box with things he has bought me on his porch, but I could never do that. it was an impulsive thought in a moment of sadness and anger. I had to look in the mirror and ask myself why am I crying like this over a man who showed me he is incapable of meeting me where I need to be met emotionally. why am I crying over a man who in some ways, used me for sex, companionship and everything else he felt comfortable enough with to stay with no intention on offering anything else. a lesson learned the hard way..
@CAM07 hang in there. I’m sorry he treated you this way.