I was with my ex for almost four years and it’s been eight months since we broke up. The hardest part for me has been accepting that eventually she’ll be physically intimate with someone else the way she once was with me. That thought still gives me anxiety and even nightmares at times.
I’m not looking for the usual time heals advice. I’d really like to hear from people who are truly over their ex: how does this thought feel to you now compared to back then? Did it fade with time or did your perspective on it change?
And a genuine question for women if you still care about an ex wish them well and hold a soft spot for them but ended things because of repeated fights and emotional pain is there ever a point where consistent healthy effort from them could change how you feel? Or once that fear and hurt are set in is it usually final?
I’m trying to understand both acceptance and reality here not chase false hope.
Last updated on:2025-12-30T08:44:08+05:30
Comments (7)
the best revenge is success
I stay if I see an effort and consistency. No1 is perfect and everyone moves forward and puts in the work in their own unique way so as long it’s something ur partner is willing to accept
She had an intimate relationship with me for a month and a half. I met someone a week ago, and I saw her on the seventh day with signs of intimacy. I decided to keep myself away from her, and I ended the relationship.
I simply don't care about him being intimate with someone else. His body isn't my property I never thought about it.
For the last question asking women isn't really helpful here. Because not all women behave the same. I personnslly would never accept my ex back even if he changed because I have him many chances during the relationship. But some other women will do it. Your ex is the one you should be asking this.
Me an my ex love each other very much but I chose to end it because of how toxic our fighting was and at the end of the day we couldn’t figure out how to communicate after ten years. No cheating, just emotional chaos. And that’s tragic.
As a woman, I know it takes time and giving a man multiple chances to try and do better on their end. So when we eventually break up with you it means we’re really done and we’ll still wish you well. You could put in consistent healthy effort but it won’t mean much anymore and it might change how we feel just a little bit but the hurt will still be there and we be afraid to give our heart fully again
get rid of the idea of someone being someone's. we are all our own someone no one belongs to anybody