Hmmm surprisingly, I received some money from my ex today. I checked my bank account and saw a large deposit. He finally sent money to support his daughter…only took 6 months. I don’t plan on reaching out to thank him. If he wants to see her, I won’t stop that, but I won’t be there. My mom will meet with him with my daughter instead. I need that distance to fully move on.
Last updated on:2025-12-31T01:09:54+05:30
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does seeing that deposit bring up relief, anger, or just numbness right now? i remember being surprised by which one hit me hardest.
Mostly relief because I was carrying the financial weight alone for so long…but also anger because money doesn’t make up for absence. Our daughter is the one who really loses with the hot and cold behavior.
what helped me was treating money as logistics only, not emotional repair. no thank yous, no conversations, just clean boundaries. it didn’t make me cold, it made me sane
Exactly this!! Money is logistics, not emotional repair. Keeping it clean and transactional is the only way I can stay sane right now.
my ex would disappear financially for months, then randomly send money like nothing happened. it messed with my head more than the absence did. that distance you’re choosing feels really familiar to me. sometimes it’s the only way to breathe again
That unpredictability really messes with your nervous system. I relate to that so much!! Distance is the only thing that’s letting me breathe right now.