He broke up with me a few weeks ago because of his mental health but he still reaches out sometimes telling me he loves me and opening up emotionally only to disappear again for days (he says it’s because he avoids his phone to focus on getting better).
Each time he does text me I feel relieved and hopeful but when he goes silent again I’m left feeling empty abandoned and even worse when he leaves me on seen. It feels like my mood depends entirely on him.
I want to ask him directly what he really wants but he hasn’t replied in days and I don’t even know if he will. It’s painful and embarrassing and I’m not sure if he truly loves me like he says or if he just wants me to stay available without any commitment.
If anyone has gone through something similar please share your experience. How do I protect myself while still caring about him so much? And how do I cope with this?
Last updated on:2025-12-31T18:46:03+05:30
Comments (4)
sad😴
Look at what’s actually happening, not just what he’s saying. Even if his mental health is the reason, the pattern of texting you with love and emotional openness, then disappearing for days, is emotionally destabilizing.
It’s not nice what he’s doing. I’ve been treated in a similar way by my ex, he has now moved on to a new woman who’s also an ex, for a year. Tell him that if he doesn’t treat you as a part of his life you’ll have to break with him. That’s the only honourable way to deal with this. Treat yourself better than he does.
yes I’ve been dealing with the same pattern for 8 years. I am finally accepting that someone whose confusing is a no. breathe and move on. you can do it.