I've known him since 2023,we've been seeing eachother for 11 months and we only have sex, he has said to me that he only wants this and he doesn't want a relationship generally, but I fell in love with him because he is my first everything and we have done so many things together, and the best thing that ill never forget is that we have slept skin to skin. I can't understand how he can do all of these things with me and still not be in love with me, I mean I hope he feels something about me. I don't think I'll ever get over him, I've tried so many times but I can't, in new years eve I was crying so much because I thought it was over I can't imagine my life without him, he was there for me when none of my friends were. He has told me that he doesn't want to loose me and that he wants me in his life but I still can't understand how he can say all of this and still doesn't like me, he also always gives me advices for everything without me asking him, when I'm with him I feel so comfortable and I can show my actual self without being judged, also I have vitiligo and he is the only one who has never talked to me about it and has never made a comment. In the past he treated me terrible and I don't understand how I still love him I just know that deep inside he is a good person. The thing is that even though I love him and I would love to be in a relationship with him I don't think he will ever change, he will always want to talk with other girls , I'm so stupid I say I want a relationship with him even though he isn't loyal and he will be only if he changes
Last updated on:2026-01-08T10:35:24+05:30
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For men, sex is a physical thing. For women, it's an emotional thing. No contact is the only way forward.
the same relationship i have been. but trust me u will too get over this. u just need time. Distract urself
I’m dealing with something similar. I don’t know what to do either. it’s the mind games that get me I can’t do it anymore
do you think you’re holding onto him because of who he is now, or because he was the one who saw you when you felt unseen and accepted every part of you?
i kept hoping the care and comfort meant love, but for him it didn’t mean commitment. realizing that didn’t stop the pain, but it stopped me from blaming myself
i was in something almost identical, sex only, “no relationship,” but he felt like home 😭 first everything too. that skin to skin closeness messes with your head, i stayed even after being treated badly because i kept telling myself he was a good person deep down.