He was the dumper for context. It's He been two month post breakup, and he started posting more and more on insta and tiktok when he rarely did during the 7 years of our relationship. I didn't want to block him initially, just muted him so I wouldn't see his story or post, and it did help with my healing. At the same time, he still views my stories and likes my post regularly.
The final straw that lead me to block was when insta suggested a reel where he had commented. The reel was quite hurtful, with the caption saying "how mf describe their most toxic ex" with a clip, and he left a comment saying "can't repost just know that I'm here". The clip was the scene from the latest Chainsaw man movie of Denji and Reze at the festival (iykyk).
What hurts me was that the relationship as a whole was not toxic at all (no cheating, abuse, substances). Towards the end, I took accountability of my own toxic traits. He had toxic traits too but have never realised or acknowledged them. Even after the breakup, I have extended myself multiple times to give the opportunity to repair. Based on the reel, I could tell that he did not have any introspection about his behaviours that have also contributed to the relationship's downfall. And he thought of me as a toxic ex.
I'm so dissapointed. I genuinely thought that we might have a chance together again if he also goes through the healing process, realises his shortcoming and come back to repair with me. That was just a fantasy I'm making up in my head.
Last updated on:2026-01-06T04:58:15+05:30
Comments (4)
I'm so proud of you, it's hard when a good relationship ends, and you deserve someone who sees you with kind and forgiving eyes. you deserve so much more. it sounds like a failed to have respect for you and take the time to reflect on himself
his behavior was very childish and cruel
you think the disappointment hurts more because you lost him, or because you lost the belief that he could ever meet you at the level of self-awareness you reached?
blocking wasn’t dramatic or angry, it was grief with boundaries. i realized that hoping they’d gain insight was keeping me stuck in a fantasy version of him. letting go of that hope was brutal, but it gave me my power back
my ex was also the dumper and suddenly turned into this online version of himself i didn’t recognize. posting more, subtle jabs, zero accountability. seeing them rewrite the story and label you “toxic” when you actually did the work? that part really HURT.