hey guys, so I went on a date 2 days ago and it was pretty good ^^ we cuddled, so no kiss or more but for the first date was it a pretty good date. and I think more would have been also too much right now. I am not over my ex completely but I wanna give the new guy a chance. I felt so safe around him but also think, that our thinking about live might be too different... but I thought that by my ex too and than we were 2 years togheter so I think it might also work out.
I reflected a lot about myself and the whole situation with my ex and think, that we cant be togheter. he didn't reached out yet and maybe he will never and I won't wait on him.
is it to early after nearly 3 months of break up to date another?
Last updated on:2026-01-07T02:12:48+05:30
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are you looking for something casual to see if you click, or hoping it might grow into more? understanding your intention can help you navigate this
i hope for more than just a flirt or something like that. I wanna find love again but also not sure if I am really ready for that right now. so I wanna start slow and see what happens
you’re being mindful, which is great. first dates after a breakup can be tricky, but if it feels comfortable, there’s no “too early.” just don’t compare him to your ex too much
i went on a first date like that just 3 months after my ex, felt nervous but safe too. honestly, it’s okay to explore, just keep your feelings in check
I think it's okay to try and date someone new. It's okay to have lingering feelings for your ex, especially after such a long relationship. I think you are asking the right question, but the wrong person. Nobody can tell you whether you are ready to date again apart from yourself. Because you are the only one that knows that your relationship with your ex was like and where you are emotionally right now. I think the time between a breakup and dating a new person is not as relevant as your readiness, because some people can date someone a year after a breakup and still not feel ready for anything new. If you enjoy your time with the new guy and feel like there could really be a connection with him, maybe you should give it a try. But reflect first on how much you have healed already, because if you're not you could hurt the new guy and secondly, you can make it harder for yourself if something happens with the new guy, because you would have to deal with two heartbreaks at once. Just a friendly advice :)
thanks, I understand ^^
I also asked myself the question what I would do if my ex would reach out at this time. would I go back to him? would I feel sorry? what would I do?
and I don't have an answer of these questions. But I would definitely hurt someone.
I also talked with the new one about the situation with my ex and how I feel about the whole situation. He understands and doesn't want to do something, that I don't want. I think that is a good point - that he knows how I think about my Ex and him.
I know, that I ask the wrong people for my question but I also don't know the answer. So I think I will just make little steps and give myself time to figure out what feels right and wrong with the new guy
hi I think that you are not to early to date and you were being responsible about it you weren’t kissing or anything more but just keeping it to a minimum and it has been 3 months.Also it is okay to still not be over your ex you guys dated for 2 years so don’t feel like you shouldn’t be still stuck on him.