Hey guys, my boyfriend broke up with me a few days ago. Before being in a relationship for about 2 months, we have been friends for 3 years. There was always romantic interest in me from his side though. He broke up because we had a lot of fights and just viewed things differently, in general I think there was a big difference in maturity that cost our relationship good communication. I really miss him, especially as a friend. Our last conversation escalated and he blocked me, to which I removed him from all my socials. Yet, yesterday I saw that he reposted ok tiktok "Too close to be just friends, too complicated to be together, too many memories to be strangers". Initially he said he believed in friendship and if something more would happen again then it was meant to be. He said he had texted me because of bad consciousness, which made me feel like he was pitying me. I felt like he wanted to keep his options open and harsly set boundaries, rejecting this kind of suggestion. I had to do it in that moment to protect my pride, but I still wish to reconcile with him someday, at least as friends. Do you think that texting him after a couple of weeks or a month or so asking for a decent conversation is okay in this case? I really don't want to lose a friend and us ending it on bad terms because of emotional stress just doesn't sit right with me :(
Last updated on:2026-01-07T01:27:02+05:30
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i get the urge to reach out… but are you hoping to just mend the friendship, or is there still some romantic hope too? it changes how you approach it.
waiting a few weeks sounds fine, just make sure it’s for clarity, not to reopen old wounds. focus on how you feel, not what he “should” do. small steps for friendship can take time.
my ex and i had been friends forever too, and after breaking up i kept hoping we’d talk again. blocking and muting helps at first, but those feelings don’t vanish overnight
Yeah, and he unblocked me the next day.