you know he has this friend who owns a bike and when he was taking me home together with his friend,, his friend kept hitting on me i was so annoyed i told him can you please tell your friend to stop ,,, his friend kept calling me flirty names in front of him and he said and did nothing,,, but i thought if a guy loves you somuch he won't allow his friends to behave that way towards you when i asked him why he allowed that he said he wouldn't allow that again we have dated 5 years ,, 5 years ,, and you are okay with your friends being touchy with me am the one who had to tell you that am getting annoyed tell them to stop i thought that it was your job to do that instead ,,, was i wrong???
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when you brought it up later, did he actually understand why it hurt you, or did it turn into him brushing it off or minimizing it?
he minimized it
i don't know if this is called minimizing when i told him he said it wouldn't happen again ,, but at the back of my mind i was like this has happened before when guys made slutty comments about me you said nothing,, you said as long as they haven't touched me,,,,, when all the girls you have cheated on me with made bad comments too calling me all soughts of names you were still quiet we have been together for 5 years it hurts then he said he has already appologized i should stop repeating the same thing twice,,, men do not like that
you weren’t wrong. at all. when someone lets that happen and only reacts after you push them, it leaves you feeling unprotected. what usually helps me is trusting that feeling instead of talking myself out of it.
i dated someone who NEVER checked his friends when they crossed lines. i remember thinking the same thing you did. if you love me, why am i the one defending myself? that silence from him hurt more than the flirting
i thought that a man who loves you would move mountains for you ,, defending your honour is the bare minimum but he made me feel like am asking for alot ,,, telling me he would not allow it again but he has allowed it so many times ,, not only with men but also with girls ,, like the girls he would cheat on me with would call me all sought of names even body shame me and he would stay quiet when guys on the street would make slutty comments about me he would say as long as they haven't touched you
ok this is so strange. first of all why the hell is the friend touching you?and how did he get the audacity for that? and how is that man of yours allowing such behaviour?
he justified his friends behavior by saying his friend was drunk ,, but he won't allow that again ,,, but that broke me even more like we have been together for 5 years everyday i told you i want you to protect me,, be obsessed with love me the eay i love you,,, i promise if you love me like that it would only make my love grow but he always said women should be the one to love more ,,,, and he always took advise from tick tock about how relationships should be like but the advise he was taking was wrong but to him he made our relationship a competition about men and women saying a man doesn't like to be reminded of the pain he caused and i was like what about me ,,, you cheated on me so many times and still acted like i should be okay with forgiving you and moving on like nothing happened,,,, when i told him i was still not okay about him keeping quiet about his friend h was like i always look for problems
@BraveTribe871 okay pause, did you just say cheated on you multiple times?!And you still stayed with him and let him gaslight and manipulate you into staying in this awful relationship with this incel man. please i beg of you, leave. this is not love, he's ruining your life he doesn't love you and he is wasting your time.
even when we were in public and guys made slutty comments about me infront of him he wouldn't speak up he said as long as they haven't touched you ,,, you cant expect me to make a big deal out of it and now when his friend was trying to touch me he was still quiet am the one who was trying to shut it down ,,,, when i told him the next day am not okay with his behavior he was like i have already said sorry can you stop bringing this up,,, you like dwelling in the past i told him its about my feelings he was like if i repeat it again then complain