Did i make the right decision?

I met this guy in 2023 my first side lover in my first year in varsity he knew me from high school but I didn't know him. we started being in a situationship during that year. He had a gf and I had bf but I ended up breaking up with my bf during talking stage with the guy cz my bf was too controlling and obsessed. fast forward after 3 months we (i and situationship guy)had an argument and I decided to leave then I found a new bf after our break up and the situationship guy came back and apologized after 2 months and I explained that I have a new bf he's working and taking good care of me he was sad and started acting right like a normal bf would I felt guilty somehow cz he was still a student he didn't have that much money to spend on expensive things like he did he would even take loans and ask for money from his gf to do things for me and I didn't like that but because i already had strong feelings for him I decided to break up with my second bf. 2024 was amazing and heartbreaking this is the year we were staying at the same res we did a lot of things together we spent most of the time together and started being open to each other but things changed when I expressed how I felt abt our situationship he said he can't leave his gf or text or call while his his gf is with him cz his family will disown him he further explained that he did a lot of bad things to his family while he was growing up and he cannot afford to be disowned while he's still in varsity. He said he loves me I'm his peace if he were to choose a gf he would chose me as he's able to share his feelings, thoughts and family issues with me and he's happy so I decided to break up with him cz we would only talk when his gf is not around when he's not at res, we would always stay indoors order food no dates we would only go out when he wanted to drink with his friend, he would only buy me gifts when i remind him that i love getting gift from my bf and he said his gf doesn't like gits and i told him I'm not that gf i also bought gifts for him . there was a time where i had heavy bleeding cz of implanon but he didn't think buying pads for me or ask if i needed anything cz according to him he said he thought i had everything under control bcz i didn't say anything to him and we're always together even when i was on my periods and another thing that hurt me is hearing him saying he can't leave his gf made me feel like I'm not worth it. to be honest he was there for me during exams and he would also celebrate my achievements. After i broke up with him November 2024 he said that I'll always be his girl and he will always call and text once in a while and if he didn't love me he wouldn't have introduced me to his close frinds and cousins. i blocked his contacts, on socials but he would call and text with random numbers saying he's sorry he loves me he miss me everyday he did that for 6 months in 2025 and I still didn't unblock him until he reached out again in December 2025 saying he want us to meet and talk I agreed. we met and talked and expressed how I felt how he hurt me and everything and he said he knows that he hurt me he's sorry he has a soft spot for me he can't leave me alone he's trying but it is not easy for him he miss me everyday. I didn't tell him anything even though I knew how much I miss him and am not coping after I left I can't even move on to find another bf when I try to date I miss the things we used to do together and my fried think it might be soul ties. I'm literally waiting for the the guy to reach out and say we can be together again but I can't live my life waiting for something that might not even happen but the truth is I can't move on from him and I don't know what to do. He said he what us to resolve our issue and start afresh but I told him there's nothing to fix he must learn to let go of me cz I don't want to be a situationship again. I'm still confused if wether i made the right decision or not

Last updated on:2026-01-06T22:59:47+05:30