What sould I do?

My bf broke up with me, we were friends for 3 years previously, but he always wanted something more. I wrote about this in another post asking whether a friendship could be possible. The thing with the breakup is that he broke up on the 1st over text saying it was too hard for him to meet or talk over phone. Later that day I texted him asking for an earring I forgot at his house and he said his mom would give it to my mom as they are friends. Then a few hours after he texted again saying how he had bad consciousness for breaking up that way and how I didn't deserve it. He offered explanations and said that we could be friends after a month or so again, and if then something more happened again, that would mean that it's meant to be. Really confusing for me. Then he said we could talk in 2-3 days in person when we both are calm again. He also said he would give me my earring then. I said ok, but then 2 days after I texted and asked about the earring. He said he would give it to his mom the next day..? Anyway, I told him I don't think friendship is possible because I felt like he wanted to keep his options open, then the conversation escalated I told him what he did in the previous days was not okay because he broke up and contacted me again, and before that we had a huge fight, in which he told me things like my reactions were not normal or they were sick... Anyway he told me I was bugging him and should leave him alone, but he's the one who texted me after the breakup suggesting friendship, meeting, and all that. He told me he only did it beacuse of bad consciousness beacuse I hit his weak spot because he knew how bad I felt and that's why he said all that and was even thinking in staying in the relationship because of that. That felt really humiliating. He told me I was manipulative and mentally abusing him, etc. Only beacuse he was really bad to me in the previous week, as described, and even insulted me and stuff. Long story short, his mom didn't give my mom the earring even after 3 days now. My friend said he's gatekeeping it. I removed him from my socials but I saw he reposted about me on tiktok with "too close to be friends, too complicated to be together, too many memories to be strangers" and unblocked me. My mom said I shouldn't even start a friendship with him again beacuse she thinks he's a manipulator and he's only waiting for me to text him or similar. When we broke up the first time I was the one to text him first. But this time I feel like he's made it clear that he wants to end things. Yet I don't get his actions in the previous days. I really think it's not okay towards me and my emotions to act that way. It really made me question our entire realtionship.

Last updated on:2026-01-07T21:28:03+05:30