We had an awesome relationship for the last 3 and a half years, always respectfully, honest and communicative. The only problem I can think of is my family. When we started dating, I tried to tell my parents but they didn't like it and since then I became a "not talk" situation (and a could tell anyone else in my family as well). So, I always had to find excuses to give my parents/famaly when we wanted to be together. Other than this, her family and our friends knew and supported and we where we're planning our life together 2 months ago. Then, 7 days ago, she broke up with me, and the only justification was that didn't feel the same anymore. I kown she is feeling very bad with the situation, and keeps reaching out constantly. So, in my head, does not make since break up since we are both super sad... Should I ask her to explain better why she wants to break up? I just can't make sense of it but do not want to pressure her...
Last updated on:2026-01-08T13:08:18+05:30
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when she reaches out, is it more comfort-seeking or does she talk about the relationship itself?
Just random stuff, talking at the start. But in the middle, she always ask how I am and how I'm feeling, and tell me how she's feeling (usually is also sad)
I think she is, because we were good together and talking constantly, so we were very "emotional dependent". But she made up her mind... the only way out I see is giving time for that dependence/habit disappear. And if still there's love, she will realize it and we can restart. If not, I have to move on, somehow... Thank you for taking time to read and answer!!
when someone keeps reaching out but still chooses to leave, i’ve learned it usually means they’re torn inside, not that the breakup makes sense yet
my relationship looked solid from the outside too, years of respect and planning, then suddenly “i don’t feel the same.” i later realized how much quiet pressure and secrecy was eating at us, even if no one said it out loud. that kind of stuff leaks into love in ways you don’t notice until it’s already cracked
Thank you for the input, it helps a lot! Probably my situation is similar. I feel like I will never know for sure why it happen... I just wished we had realize something was wrong before it was broken, because I kown I could do more if she had told she needed, but like you said, probably none of us saw it before it was too late. Maybe now only time can help...