Two months after we broke up, I found out through a colleague that my ex had already started pursuing his ex again. I never confronted him or made a scene when I learned about it. I stayed quiet and kept my distance, although he probably knew I was already aware since one of my closest colleagues tried to confront him. Still, it hurt, especially knowing he went back to someone he used to speak badly about.
At that time, I could not fully cut him off because he still had debts to pay. Even though our conversations were purely transactional, they were difficult for me. Two weeks ago, he finally paid everything in full and sent me a kind message. He thanked me and wished me well, but there was no apology or acknowledgment of the pain he caused. Shortly after that, he unfriended me. It was clear how easily he chose to remove me from his life.
I eventually blocked him on social media because I really want to move on and focus on my own life. Even so, it has not been easy. We are neighbors, and simple things like early morning runs, short walks, or quick errands constantly remind me of him. Those memories leave me feeling sad and lonely.
How do you move on when you feel like you were just a rebound? When it feels like maybe you did not matter as much as you thought? I have been keeping myself busy by joing fun runs and studying for my board exams, but my heart still feels heavy. I really want to move on. How did you do it?
Last updated on:2026-01-09T20:22:49+05:30
Comments (6)
when you think about him now, is it the person you miss or the idea of what you hoped could’ve been?
It’s more about the future we could have had if we hadn’t broken up. If you asked me whether I want to go back to him, my answer would be a firm no. I don’t miss him. What I miss is the feeling of having someone I could call my person, the comfort of being chosen, and the sense of sharing my world with someone while they share theirs with me.
it’s brutal living near someone who used to be your whole world. keeping busy like you’re doing helps, but it’s okay to feel sad too. your heart needs time, not just distractions
my ex also went back to someone he used to trash-talk and it left me feeling like i barely mattered. i stayed quiet too, but damn it still hurt.
Hugs to you. This kind of pain hurts more than cheating. How are you doing right now though?
I think you have unfortunately to seat with your feelings. It will go away with time For now you keep yourself busy which is great and you blocked him which will remove his presence at least online. Stay focused ❤️