A full month and still nothing. No email. No checking in on his daughter. No asking to see her. This isn’t new, it’s his pattern. He disappears when we’re not together and only shows interest when it benefits him. Last time he wanted to “see her,” it was really about getting back with me. I’m starting to accept that protecting my peace and my daughter’s emotional safety matters more than keeping a door open for inconsistency. Should I just permanently cut him off?🤔
Last updated on:2026-01-14T08:13:24+05:30
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Im going through the same..Im at the point where Im just going to be done all together..His daughter is always reaching out to him never the other way around..and then he still doesnt answer sometimes..Im really over it..but its narcissistic behavior at its finest..its hard trying to heal frm the person and co parent for the sake of ur daughter too..
Ugh, I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this too. It’s so draining. My girl is only 7 months and he’s already missing everything. Honestly, I’m actually at peace when we don't talk because the anxiety he gives me is unreal, and I actually get things done! But it’s hard because I grew up without a dad and I know how much that hurts. I’m in therapy now working through my own abandonment issues because she deserves a happy, healed mom. Sending you love, we’ve got this.
Change your phone number and never look back! That's not healthy for you or your child.
I'm honestly thinking of doing that.
@NovaDash241 or just block. That's what I had to do for my own sanity.
@Unhealed he's already blocked on my phone since I started no contact. I don't know if I can block him by email though.
he does come back around, how does it usually leave you feeling after. calmer or more on edge
I realized I’m never actually calm. It's just a short distraction, and then the anxiety comes back even louder.
from my side, the moment i chose peace over “maybe he’ll change,” things got quieter inside me. protecting your kid emotionally is HUGE. patterns tell the truth when words don’t.
Preach! Protecting my daughter's energy is the only thing that matters right now.
been with someone who only showed up when it benefited him too. vanished otherwise. that inconsistency messed with my nervous system more than the breakup itself
I feel this so much! It’s like my body’s always waiting for something to go wrong. The back-and-forth was way more exhausting than the goodbye.
it's a difficult situation because your daughter is involved here too. I think permanently cutting him off sounds like your best bet but give him the ultimatum that he will only be allowed back to check in on his daughter when he shows that he's doing better
That's a tough one. I want her to have a dad, but only if that dad is stable. I'm just not sure if he's capable of "doing better" consistently right now.
@NovaDash241 it's important to have a stable dad. sometimes it's more beneficial having no dad instead of an unstable dad.