what about now

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I feel so stuck right now. I know it's so easy for people to say it's going to be fine or it will get easier but what about right now. what about how I feel right now. I'm sure I'll feel better at some point but what about now. I feel like I'm being suffocated eith sadness to the point I cannot even stand being in my own room or bed without breaking down.

Last updated on:2026-01-12T00:51:02+05:30

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HollowLove
HollowLove 2 mths ago

what feels worst right now. the loneliness, the memories, or the silence when you’re alone in your room

limbba
limbba 2 mths ago

when it was that intense for me, i stopped thinking about “getting better” and just focused on surviving the next 10 minutes.

grizzamio
grizzamio 2 mths ago

that suffocating sadness where your own bed feels unbearable. everyone telling me “it’ll pass” made me feel invisible. right now was the hardest part for me too

FunkPop640
FunkPop640 2 mths ago

I feel this so much!! I’m right there with you-like yes we get it- it’s over and we will get better - but our bodies are not ready for that yet and it seems so unbearable to think it will feel like this for so long!! you’re getting stronger each minute even when you don’t feel it! I have been trying to include activities that help rewire my nervous system - but the sleepless nights and panic at any given moment- crying anywhere any time- I feel like I bleed tears even when my mind is blank. you’re not alone as much as it feels that way- we are all here and we got you!!

rhi19x
rhi19x 2 mths ago

I totally feel exactly what you explained and it's so hard to accept buy in reality I have to move on. he's being horrible to me and although I'd rather have him in my life a little but than not at all, why would I want to be involved with someone who treats me like that x

Skidzorz
Skidzorz 2 mths ago

I do not have many words of advice, as I’m still in thick of it with my first true love, but as an addict in recovery I will say that what’s helping me is just trying to think of getting through today. Don’t think about a month or three months or the rest of your life because that can seem impossible to imagine. Just get yourself through today alive. Sending me love <3.

rhi19x
rhi19x 2 mths ago

thankyou. I hope you're okay or doing as best as you can and keep your head up x

HappyWander533
HappyWander533 2 mths ago

same here, and its been 6 months, bt she was my first gf and i had been in love with her since 2020. its not ez ive learned that, bt im sure there has to be smthn in the future that will make this pain worth living, so i just stick to that, let the emotions have there room, bt obviously dont let them take ur life, jst take ur time to feel sad, feel the pain, not the same as suffering, u suffer when u let urself in all those thoughtcircles and thats not good, feeling pain is normal and its has to have its room, not always, bt sometimes when its too much, remember u can cry, its not bad, its nothing of being ashamed of, it is a intimate act, bt its healthy sometimes, u have to stick to something that gives u hope and u wont notice if its better or not, bt one day u will wake up and the pain will be less and u will live with that till u wake up another time and notice that now its even less and that on and on. ive felt that only 1 time, the waking up and feeling that the pain is less and i stick to the thought that there will be another day i wake up and the pain is even less. hope i helped u, be strong❤️

rhi19x
rhi19x 2 mths ago

this helped me a lot. this message really have me insight and I know it will be better it's just hard to see that through all of the pain if that makes sense

letitgo_user
letitgo_user 2 mths ago

Same mate. I am there right now and it is the worst thing that has ever happened to me

rhi19x
rhi19x 2 mths ago

I don't think I've been in this much pain in my life. it's so bad. even when my sister passed away I wasn't this bad

JoyfulMe776
JoyfulMe776 2 mths ago

i’m in the exact same situation with the first etc right now and trust me when i say we can get through this. You’ll be hoping and remembering what could’ve been rather than who he was when there’s such immense pain your brain tricks you into it so don’t blame yourself but it’s okay to cry it’s okay to be sad. My advice would be to right down any key moments throughout the relationship with the honest truth and when u get upset etc read them and remember the truth rather than what your mind thinks during this tricky time. i wish you all the best and we both can do this your not alone ❤️

rhi19x
rhi19x 2 mths ago

thankyou so much ❤️ it's so nice hearing other poeples experiences and knowing that you aren't alone ❤️

JoyfulMe776
JoyfulMe776 2 mths ago

@rhi19x there’s always someone out there who has the same experience girl and we both will get through this right now you just need to focus on you and the rest will happen for itself

yourSree
yourSree 2 mths ago

when body is not co operating do a tangent shift. Take a bath, go for a run, book a massage
physically do something that takes the edge off this suffocation. hope this helps. no SH

letitgo_user
letitgo_user 2 mths ago

it's especially hard when you have "first" moments with that person, but that doesn't mean the end of the world, all "love" and pain will pass, so will this one, you can do it girl, I believe in you

rhi19x
rhi19x 2 mths ago

aww this means the world to me you don't understand, thankyou! x

letitgo_user
letitgo_user 2 mths ago

@rhi19x no problem girll, feel free to text me anytime if you need any advice, ly ❤️

rhi19x
rhi19x 2 mths ago

@wegotthis thankyou so much you dint understand how much hat means to me ❤️

letitgo_user
letitgo_user 2 mths ago

I feel very sorry for you. I know how you feel. I had a situation where I loved a boy so much that I suffered for him for 3 years, he was my first true love, and I also thought that everything was over, that my life was over, that I would never love like that again, that I would not be loved and many other things, but something you have to know is that time and new people heal everything. Over time you will learn to live with it and new people will show you that not everything is as black as it seems, if it is destined you will find your way to each other one day, if not it means that there is another person who will be 10 times better than this one. Until then, continue to live normally and everything will be okay, remember.

rhi19x
rhi19x 2 mths ago

thankyou so much. this man has been the first man I have properly and utterly fell on love with, I have had so many firsts with him and I feel exactly how you have just explained it. it's really nice to know I'm not alone in this and other people jave experienced this as well, and it's not just me x