I still care about him and love him deeply even if I’m not truly in love anymore.
But I can’t move past the disrespect I endured just to keep him. It leaves me feeling embarrassed and worthless.
He stopped really talking to me about six months ago and I know he’s moved on completely. Yet he still reaches out for help because I allowed it. And it hurts — when someone you care for so much someone you long to connect with only uses you as much as they can.
Everything still hurts.
Just when I think I’m finally over it something happens and I’m thrown right back into the same pain I felt when I discovered he was cheating. I feel so foolish for letting it get to me all over again.
Last updated on:2026-01-12T23:56:03+05:30
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when he reaches out for help, do you feel relief for a second because it’s connection, or does it mostly leave you feeling used and smaller afterward
you should be proud you walked away and know this is for the best. I hope I can have your mindset soon. be proud of yourself, you are free
i stayed available to someone who disrespected me too, just hoping he’d choose me again. being the “safe place” while he moved on wrecked my self-worth. that embarrassed feeling, i KNOW it
Do you love him or the image of him in your mind.
invest that energy on yourself, force yourself to create new habits that promote your sense of worth, like jornaling, do things you like, try to be more with friends, light a candle for every day, go for a walk, etc. you matter, he lost... with time you will see this pain is preparing you for something better and it's a precious time for your healing. stay strong. hug.