We finally had a long phone call and talked everything through. He told me, very honestly, how much my actions hurt him how exhausted, unloved, and unappreciated he felt in the relationship. Hearing it all at once was devastating. I cried a lot and felt deep regret realizing how blind I had been to the impact of my behavior.
At one point I even suggested stepping away so he could be happy, but he told me he believed I could change if I showed it through actions, not just words and also since i should or would change for someone else in the future even if it's not him, he wants me to change for him. We talked for over three hours about our patterns, mistakes, and what would need to be different.
In the end, we decided to try again slowly and intentionally. We both said “I love you,” and it felt surreal after being broken up for months. I’m carrying a lot of guilt, but also determination to actually change and not repeat the same mistakes. This isn’t a perfect ending just a second chance we’re choosing to take seriously.
btw it's been 4 days since we got back together and I'm still very anxious and alert about everything but praying to God everything will fall into place.❤️🙏
Last updated on:2026-03-02T23:39:46+05:30
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you feel that anxiety right now, is it more fear of hurting him again, or fear of getting hurt if things don’t work this time
when i got back together, the anxiety stayed for weeks. what helped me was remembering change shows up in tiny actions, not overnight. being aware like you are already matters
ok that helps. but is it okay to tell him we should slow things down a bit because of my anxiety being on the roof right now. and i need time to rebuild the trust and the connection.
u were done, why go backwards? and sounds like a bunch of wht u did wrong and where u need to do better. wht about him!
um it's because mostly the relationship started to crumble because of me that's why i was willing to fix it again and try my best to be a good partner to him then see how things will be going afterwards.
@HexiFly769 it could be his character-a reason the relationship started to crumble too, don't own tht, if he knows thts how u feel it could backfire
@CozyGlo662 turns out it did.
i had a second chance convo like this too, where i finally heard how unloved he felt. that guilt was HEAVY. loving again after months apart felt surreal and terrifying at the same time
yes it also feels it's kinda a lil to fast to be saying i love you since it takes time for the trust to be rebuilt the connection to be reestablished again.
How did you get through the 79/80 days of nc, did you view his story, kept his number or you had deleted his number??
I'm so happy that you got another chance with him, please do listen to what drove to the breakup and so your best to avoid it happening again.
All the best💐
aww🥰 that's very kind of you, thank you. yes i will absolutely be more aware and intentional from now on.
It was actually really rough i was fine for the first month kept myself away from his online presence but still hurting deeply inside crying most days. And then the second one i become so obsessed and viewd his tiktok likes and reposts almost every day(with a logged out device) but kept my reposts as neutral as possible but yes i deleted his number.
after how long
after 79 day of nc he reached out and asked to get back together and after 83 or 84 days we talked again and got back together if I'm not mistaken.
after how long