Please I need help, Should I message her?
So me and my ex broke up about a month ago, I begged her for 3 weeks and it was the worst thing I could've done but I wasn't thinking, on the 3rd week she told me to message her in a month if I need a better explanation for the break up to help me move on.. now i need help on making the decision if I should give in to it or not, I know she's expecting me to message her, do you think doing the opposite and being unpredictable will have her thinking about me? should I message her in two months instead of one to see if I still have the urge to message her and to make the decision mines instead of hers? I feel like giving it more time like in two months is best for the both of us and honestly I'm not expecting us to get back together from this talk and im not having my hopes high so I don't get hurt, I need help on making a decision and I want as much feedback I can get. Thank you all...
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when you imagine sending that message, what are you hoping it gives you in that moment. clarity, relief, connection, or proof you still matter to her
i begged for weeks too and then clung to that “maybe later we can talk” like it was oxygen. i told myself i wasn’t hoping for anything, but deep down i was. that limbo messed with my head
Im also deep down hoping as well but I hope by the 2 months that hope goes away
text in 2 months as you say you don't want to get back together, by then the both of you would be calm and can talk freely, who knows maybe you might get good pointers for your next relationship
yeah im planning on texting her in 2 months or if I have a change of heart just not message her at all
I think you should but be non chalant about it. Like Whatever happens, happens. I know a break up feels like your heart is ripped apart but trust me, it gets better.
it's really difficult, it feels like im just letting go of something good that could've been.. I heard people usually regret break ups in 3 months so maybe that'll be the perfect time to message her and see how it goes