I gave this man all of me, I took him back multiple times after he manipulated me, gaslighted me and used me. We finally broke up again for the last time (so I thought) in October, only for me to find out that im pregnant. I told him we could just co-parent and i'd keep him updated on the baby. but no, he begged and pleaded to "get back together and make it work" smh worst decision of my life!!!!! He started isolating me from my family and friends, controlling my every move, he was literally attached to my hip!! his mom ended up getting sick, I was by his side every step of the way, neglecting my own needs, rescheduling appointments, canceling job interviews so I could be by his side... his car broke down, he was using my car, he didn't have enough to buy his kids Christmas gifts... I made sure his kids and mine were good on Christmas..... do yall know.... this man left me on Christmas eve and told me he didn't wanna be with me anymore lmfao.... his car is fixed...the kids got the Christmas gifts and his mother pulled through.... he no longer needs me.... okay thats fine im used to this cycle... but last week I started bleeding extremely heavy, I thought i was having a miscarriage... I told him and he didn't care.... that hurt!!!!! he still hasn't asked about me or the wellbeing of our child... oh and did I forget to mention we live across from each other? I hate it here. he was hurt me so many times but this time hurt the worst đź’” im done!!!
Last updated on:2026-01-19T20:18:51+05:30
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when you say this hurt the worst, is it because he ignored your pain this time, or because it finally made it clear how one sided it’s always been
yes, I finally realized it was one side. I hate that it took for me to get pregnant to realize this..
this shattered me to read. i’ve been the one who kept giving and fixing while being gaslit into thinking i wasn’t doing enough. the pregnancy part hits extra hard. being discarded once you’re “no longer useful” is a pain i wouldn’t wish on anyone
Wow, I can't imagine what you are going through. This man sounds like he is narcissistic. I'm sorry honey but narcissists cannot change! They cannot bond with their partner because their brains can't produce oxytocin or vasopressin. He may act emotional sometimes but it is just to emotionally manipulate you into doing whatever he wants you to do. He knows now to control you and he won't stop. Narcissist can be dangerous! Be careful. For the love of your unborn child, get away from this man now! Cut him off. He will try to come back because he feels like he has unlimited access to you now and for the next 18 years since you are carrying his child. Be strong and ignore him! You are sweet and giving person so you know you deserve better! A good man is going to come into your life. But first you have to get rid of him! Google 'how to deal with a narcissistic partner.' Good luck girl! Keep up update!
thank you, im trying so hard... it really doesn't help that we live across from each other though... so im looking into moving ASAP