My boyfriend and I decided to take a break because there’s been too much drama between us. (To be clear there was no abuse involved.) Things got to the point where we couldn’t even talk without making things worse so we thought some space might help save the relationship.
We miss each other terribly and even our dog misses him which breaks my heart. We agreed he should move out until we can figure out how to resolve our differences. Both of us are struggling financially and mentally and that’s been a big source of our problems. No matter how much we try to communicate or adjust our attitudes it never seems to last. We can’t afford therapy and the advice we get from others hasn’t really helped.
The surprising part is that my mom who is very strict and protective and who hated my ex for good reasons actually supports me being with my current boyfriend. She believes he’s good for me. He’s even been reaching out to her telling her how much he misses me and checking in to make sure I’m okay. She sees that he’s not a bad person just someone who needs guidance. At the same time she’s reminded me that I need to work on myself too my patience my choices and my growth.
After some time apart we agreed to talk again about what needs to change and what we expect for the future. He even told my mom that if we can make this work he wants to marry me. I want that too marriage kids a future together. But I also want to be sure he’s truly the one for me.
We both want this to work so badly but we’re scared of being hurt again and don’t want to waste more time if things don’t improve. We’ve agreed that if the cycle continues it has to end.
So now I’m left wondering: is it worth giving this one more shot or is it better to move on?
Last updated on:2026-01-20T08:30:05+05:30
Comments (4)
when you picture giving it one more shot, are you imagining something genuinely different, or hoping love alone will finally make it stick this time
from my side, breaks only helped when i used the space to actually watch the pattern instead of just missing them. love was real, but i had to see if the cycle changed or just paused
I think it's better to move on. This will continue to be a confusing loop cycle
i’ve been in that “we love each other but keep hurting each other” loop. no abuse, just stress, money, bad timing, and CONSTANT miscommunication. wanting marriage while being exhausted is such a confusing place to live