I went through a breakup back in April 2025 and even now I can’t seem to move past it. The relationship was toxic and he disrespected me in ways that were truly awful. I spent months in therapy trying to process everything yet I still feel stuck.
What embarrasses me most is how deeply infatuated I was with him despite how badly he treated me and how I stayed even when I knew better. Some days I feel fine but then I’ll have a dream about him and it wrecks me I end up thinking about him for days afterward.
It’s been almost ten months since we last spoke and I keep wondering when I’ll finally be able to let go.
Last updated on:2026-01-21T20:24:03+05:30
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when you think about letting go, do you feel more grief for him specifically, or for the version of yourself who hoped it would finally turn into real love
i’ve learned that being stuck doesn’t mean you didn’t heal. it just means your nervous system remembers the highs and lows.
Trauma bond
i stayed way too long with someone who disrespected me too, and the shame afterward was almost worse than the breakup. the dreams messed me up for months. i’d wake up missing someone who hurt me