Should I still receive the Valentines gift or not?

After our first breakup, even though he did not just treat me poorly, after he cheated on me and keeping my private pictures even though I already took away the consent I gave to him at first, lying to me and all I still gave him a chance after. Not instantly or immediately but I still did. I still gave him chances after all that, something even happened to us (just slightly not like the same thing before)despite everything he have done. We werent officially back together during that time but we kinda act like we are but we both know I was just giving him chance and I am on a verge during that time if we should still try again or nah. I am more leaning on the part where we shouldnt so we agreed that we break up before the year ends. During that time also we had a talk about how I still would like to receive a Valentine gift from him on Valentines next year even though we are not together anymore and he also told me he would want that because that is what I also deserve and he promise he will do that...

But then before we officially broke up, I found out he cheated in me again, I found out he lied to me again so after we broke up the pain he have caused me the scar it already gave was deepened..

and then after that we have no contact. I survived for like 2 weeks already not contacting him even though he still tries to reach out on me. But then I failed my streak here when he ran to me the otger day in person and called me and there we had a talk...however, he hurted me again after that talk we had. I experienced again the thing he keeps doing to me, how confusing he is. I take resposibility for hurting him that time because of how he got bothered by seeing me with another guy that day and how we seem so close and how it seems like I already moved on. I already told him, assure and explain to him it wasnt really serious. The truth is I just find the guy cute and I enjoy his presence that is why I spend time with him but that doesnt mean I already moved on, that doesnt mean I was taking a revenge on him and stuff. I apologize to him because of how I was unable to think about what we would feel if he ever saw us. I understand he was bothered even though he is trying to calm himself down but then I felt hurt when he became harsh and too cold to me even though he was the one who left such a deep pain on me. He said "There is no us anymore, so how I interact to you now is different. Not because I am not okay" after he aaid that I feel like tgere is something wrong with the way he said it. Yes it is true we are no longer together and I am not expecting him to be sweet or whatsoever. After that I replied "Sometimes you really had a lot of audacity to talk to me in such way even though you are the one who caused a lot of hurt and pain" I mean he is the one who hurted me so bad and did a lot of bad things, why does he talk to me this way? Shouldnt he be talking to me in a more careful way if he really is feeling guilty and accountable to the mistakes and the pain he have caused me?

I cried after that, even though he said sorry and became more soft after that it still hurted me. I did not like the way he talked to me that time and it hurts me because for a long time that was the chance where we got to talk again and he will treat me that way??

After all that I felt like he was not really entirely accountable. Yes he feels sad and guilty but then there is still something wrong...

and here I am, I do not know anymore if I should let him give me gifts for the Valentines in which he promise..in our last talk he did told me how he already earned a lot and how ready he is for it and how really would like to make his promise come true..

but then after what happened it feels like it is not the right thing anymore to accept the gift but then I worry what if I regret turning him down I mean we've been talking about that a lot when we were still a bit okay so it is big deal...

what do you guys think, should I still let him or not anymore? and why??

Last updated on:2026-01-28T02:50:27+05:30