I'm an anxious person who always checks his socials to see what he's doing. My ex was my best friend, and he was everything to me. We knew so much about each other, and told each other everything. To be so distant due to no contact is incredibly hard, which often leads to me checking his socials hoping for any updates about his life. I've tried so hard to stop checking, and I have unfriended him on almost every social media, but I keep checking one of them. I know the best thing to do would be delete him, but how can I bring myself to do that after everything we shared? Our messages would be completely gone.
Is this a normal thing, to want to check his socials often? Is this just a part of the grieving for some people? I won't lie, I texted him today. Just a simple how are you doing. He never responded past a hello.
That's okay. I'll continue trying to move on. I need support now, I need to know how everyone began to stop worrying about checking your ex's socials. Is it really just as simple as deleting them from your phone and losing the contact information if possible? Should I remove the final piece of connection I have to him?
Last updated on:2026-02-02T16:33:03+05:30
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you check his socials, what are you hoping to feel in that moment. comfort, reassurance, connection, or just not feeling forgotten
i used to refresh my ex’s socials like it was my JOB. she was my best friend too, knew everything about me, so no contact felt like going cold turkey. deleting her felt like erasing proof we ever existed. you’re not weird for this at all, it’s grief mixed with anxiety and attachment, and it hurts like hell
It's like an addiction. For now, it's good that you detox yourself from all contact from him IMO. Even today, 3 years later, I still feel a bit uncomfortable when I see my first ex's Instagram and photos with his new gf, although it doesn't hurt anymore. Maybe you don't need to delete the messages now, but atleast archive them if it's possible
you should really block the contact or even delete your socials for a moment
I’ve also went no contact on every social media site my ex is on. i found myself constantly checking his and anyone he’s close to. I realized doing this is hindering my healing