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after finding out my bf of 5 years cheated on me with his colleague I've been so devastated my friend adviced me to start dating and meet other guys
I've went on 2 dates so far and I feel guilty even being with a other guy. and honestly I don't want to compare but I can feel I'm not interested even if the guys are sweet
I know my ex did the worst thing to me but my heart stil belongs to him 💔

Last updated on:2026-02-03T19:58:48+05:30

Comments (10)

Shattered
Shattered 4 wks ago

you’re on these dates, is it guilt you feel the most, or grief? like missing who you thought he was and the life you pictured together

ladyT
ladyT 4 wks ago

it's both I never picturing myself with anyone else and I still can't

BlueEcho
BlueEcho 4 wks ago

this hurt to read. for me, dating too soon just showed me how not-ready i was, and that was okay. sometimes the guilt isn’t about the new person, it’s about how deep the bond with your ex still runs. nothing wrong with noticing that.

ladyT
ladyT 4 wks ago

I want to forget him so badly and seeing him post makes me think how happy he is without me probably with her

BrokenSoul
BrokenSoul 4 wks ago

after i found out my ex cheated, i tried dating too and i felt SICK with guilt, like i was betraying someone who already betrayed me. my heart was still stuck on him even though my brain knew better. it’s such a messed up place to be

ladyT
ladyT 4 wks ago

it's exactly how I'm feeling and they guy kissed me good nights and I literally cried all night

PogoBun805
PogoBun805 4 wks ago

give it time

ladyT
ladyT 4 wks ago

Time to get use to it ?

CozyAndLight913

give yourself time to fall in love with yourself first before you start dating I personally would still date but just see it as gaining new experiences using it as an excuse to look pretty and boost my confidence x

ladyT
ladyT 4 wks ago

thank you so much for this advice it definitely is a confidence boost after everything I've been through. I honestly felt guilty going out with another man and just thought to myself how could he cheat so easily