need thoughts - new boy

hello. it’s been over 100 days since my ex and I have been no contact. I’ve since been dating this guy for the last few weeks. Friday afternoon he said “I need to get some work done, I’ll text you later.” Now it is Sunday and I haven’t heard from him. Should I worry? Am I overreacting? My ex ignored me for days before we broke up and any time we fought so I just don’t know if I’m bringing old things into my new situation 🫨🙂‍↕️

Last updated on:2026-02-03T05:34:59+05:30

Comments (7)

VoidMuse
VoidMuse 4 wks ago

has he ever gone quiet like this before, or is this the first time? and when he said he’d text later, did that feel solid to you or already a little off?

PicklyPercy
PicklyPercy 4 wks ago

it felt solid. no he hasn’t gone days like that before. he messaged me at like 10 am this morning from a different phone number and said his phone was stolen. I feel bad but like idk why I don’t believe him :/

limbba
limbba 4 wks ago

a couple days of no reply can mean a lot of things, and not all of them are bad. but it’s also okay that your body reacted. old patterns leave marks.

cryqueen
cryqueen 4 wks ago

i dated someone new after my toxic ex and the silence sent me spiraling. my ex used to disappear for days before fights or breakups too, so every gap felt like a warning sign. it took me a while to realize i wasn’t crazy, i was just bruised.

letitgo_user
letitgo_user 4 wks ago

Don't make assumptions! If you feel ok about it, ask him if everything is alright. You haven't heard from him. Or you wait for me. But don't make assumptions! Good luck

CozyVibes297
CozyVibes297 4 wks ago

If you’re interested, there’s no harm in initiating contact. communication is best when you’re still learning who each other are.

ForMyself26
ForMyself26 4 wks ago

You can send him another message to find out for sure. It's not good to dwell on it like this; maybe there's another reason. In any case, try sending him a message, or better yet, call him, and you'll see. Everyone is different.