My boyfriend and I were together for over two years. I tend to have an anxious attachment style while he’s more avoidant. Whenever we had conflicts his instinct was to pull away often threatening to break up and going days without speaking to me because he needed space.
We were on one of those breaks recently after an argument and I hadn’t seen him in over a week. We were still talking but then another argument happened. I overwhelmed him in that moment and his response was simply to say he wishes me the best and hopes I find the support I need. After that he stopped replying altogether.
The next day his family reached out to tell me he had said we broke up something he’s never done before. Two days later he blocked me on all social media which is also a first.
I’m absolutely heartbroken. I just want him back. I regret overwhelming him but I was triggered in the moment and didn’t know how to handle it. Do you think this is really the end? It feels final since he told his family and blocked me but I can’t imagine ever moving on from him. Is there anything I can do?
Last updated on:2026-02-03T02:52:00+05:30
Comments (6)
Loving an avoidant is the hardest thing a person can do. Avoidants are very selfish and immature. You deserve better.
I'm also in the same situation but It was a 5 year relationship 🥲
it’s brutal and it feels like it’s final because of the blocking and what he told his family.
Even if he would come back, why would you want to be with someone that treats you like that? This is his pattern, he won't change. You can't control anyone only yourself. He dissappeared? Well he's a ghost then. You deserve better and you can do so much better. Focus on YOU! He doesn't value you. Value yourself! Hugs
i was with someone avoidant too, and i did EVERYTHING to fix things when he pulled away. i’ve been there, waiting for a text that never came, replaying every argument in my head. it HURTS.
For your good, please assume you are done. The way he did it is not good but it wouldn´t get any better. Trust me.